No one sticks and stones break my bones "- and words are measurable physical damage, but they will cause progressive, long-term damage Never underestimate the power of words: words are used to brainwash ..
Since you said "stupid", "ugly", "lazy" or "worthless" is never acceptable. Listen to the first time, will hurt, of course. By the time "can be used to" hear from a partner. That is, if you internalize it and I think to get started. If this happens to youthe other person do the job of putting up for this. Therefore, your feelings of self-esteem is always suffer in the course of time.
The good news is that just as words have been used to bring down, you can learn, has the power of words to build and use to restore your trust and faith in themselves.
2 You always said it's your fault. Somehow, whatever happens, but it begins, the final blame lies with you. Note that we are talking about the final faultHere. The partners say that will always blame their behavior with what you said or did caused. In fact, the argument runs along the lines that you can not be blamed for everything, because if you say no, what would you say or do what you never did.
3 They are more inclined to your partner that you believe to believe. Have you ever faced reeled with a sense of pain and injustice, or boiled with anger to your way? Youfound myself wondering: "And 'reasonable to think that way?" "I misread something?" "I hurt?"
If this is what it means is that to do so under the brainwashing that you have ceased to trust your personal opinion. Your eye continues to lay the comments and questions, because deep down we know that what happens is completely wrong. But now you can not feel the strength of their convictions.
4 Give credit to your partner, your feelings. HaveHave you ever felt desperate to listen to your partner what you are saying and ask forgiveness for the hurtful things they said? Have you ever thought that only they can use the pain I have caused to heal?
Your desire for them to validate your feelings keep you hooked the relationship?
When one partner always denies or refuses to listen to your feelings, is that without a doubt, psychological abuse.
5 Your partner blows hot and cold. It can be very affectionate, but often very criticalThem. He can tell you how much he loves you, but is short on care or respect for you. In fact, sometimes, maybe even a lot of time, treated as if someone really likes.
They have everything they can to make him happy, but it is never enough. It is more likely that the dog in the relationship, as they are the equal partners. Your persistent efforts to get his attention and ask to meet with little success. Sometimes you have to be charmed, oftenrepellent.
If you are a mystery even to treat your partner can be found in this way, it is because you are trying, in a loving relationship based, when in reality you live life in a control-based relationship. The culprit is struggling with their spiritual feelings of worthlessness and uses his relationship with a sense of personal power to create, his partner at cost.
6 It feels as if you are constantly walking on eggshells. There is a degree of fear inReport. You have come to dread his outbursts, the hurtful things that can be found, it will say. (Perhaps to pay the same fear and distress in your relationship for some).
Fear is not part of a loving relationship, but it is an important part of a mentally abusive relationship. It allows the offender to gain control over you.
7 You can heal. Mentally abusive relationships cause enormous emotional damage to the loving partner who tries, against all odds, to maintainthe relationship together and ultimately can not because his partner is working against them.
Whether you are currently in a mentally abusive relationship, have recently left or years later, still caused the fears and low self-esteem and lack of trust of mental abuse, it is never too late to heal.
But you need to work with a person or a program specifically geared to mental abuse recovery.
Women who have suffered mental abuse expectradical change of themselves, and they now expect. As a result, they struggle and, not infrequently, take with another abusive partner.
Mental abuse recovery is a gradual process. Can low self-esteem and limiting beliefs, what kind of future the abuse victim could ever hope for blocks that can stop women from going forward. But they are blocks, you can delete are very effective. As a language once used was to hurt you, now you can learn the language you can heal.You can overcome past mental abuse and to secure in the future. You can also learn, feel strong, believe in themselves and create the life and relationships you really want.
"The Woman You Want To Be" is a folder designed to help only to accompany a year of travel for the emotional health and happiness.
(C) 2005 Annie Kaszina
